Among my interviewees the most popular matchmaking app was Tinder

Among my interviewees the most popular matchmaking app was Tinder

India Now-Air conditioning Nielsen ORG-) , it had been noticed young years are prepared to grab one risk and are also demonstrating far more permissive perceptions towards sexual habits (Thomas 2008)

Younger ladies’ transactions of sexuality is state-of-the-art in Asia, on one hand there’s intimate controls as well as on one other the brand new guarantee out of intimate independence. Inside context, my aim would be to query whether or not the https://kissbrides.com/pt-pt/ymeetme-recensao/ sexual-intercourse pit is originating closer, if women are like males for the intimate habits and whether or not girls for the Kolkata are using so it app getting pursuit of sexual joy because of its own purpose.

No matter if many women profiles wanted to ascertain actual, in person relationship once they had connected on line, there had been couples interviewees who had been perhaps not interested in order to meet this new boys offline but wanted to chat on the web

People logged inside app which have a feeling of curiosity, to talk easily that have individuals external their particular community, so you’re able to browse their sex best, and determine with the males, to date males and possess partnerships, to get over as well as have the heads from a nasty split right up. A few female interviewees made use of the markets metaphor and you will told you they only appreciated reading new profiles of males as in ‘shopping on the internet, your swipe you to list immediately following some other.’ Lady also stated that they appreciated this new validation devoid of in fact meet up with anyone. Most women interviewees just weren’t during these applications getting everyday dating and you can had written on the pages ‘not for hook-ups’. It know toward on line platforms one can possibly perhaps not scout for very long term matchmaking but they sought legitimate people with just who they could meet, work together after which you may go on to things a great deal more sexual otherwise sexual. Although pages navigated the applications toward presumption there carry out be real intimacy but some my people profiles wished a bonding ahead of intimate intimacies. Possibly the very few women who wanted casual intercourse and have been using the software to understand more about their sexual wants desired males who was basically “emotionally readily available”. However, the ladies sensed most people focus on intercourse and you will females interviewees took caution to swipe correct. It averted users with shirtless images of men, overt reference to intimate traditional instance “searching for a good lady which have a dirty notice”, with condescending statements such “only swipe best if you find yourself smart sufficient”, hypermasculine attitudes like “just care about fitness centers and you can bros”, “most aggressive”, “have a tendency to lose you due to the fact a good little princess for individuals who discard your crappy habits”. Political opinions of men was basically also very important, lots of women interviewees mentioned they appreciated boys which have leftover leanings. Males which have hypermasculine thinking was rejected of the women to have perhaps not trusting inside gender equality. Women in this research swiped correct when men’s pages stated that these people were in search of matchmaking and you may company. Immediately after swiping proper, girls remaining or ‘unmatched’ after they spotted its schedules talking much more about by themselves instead than just trying to know the females. Right here females members asserted its options, individual flexibility, concerned about by themselves. A female interviewee produced in the girl story “there was a feeling of power in-being able to many times sample and you will refute guys.”

Informant’s narratives reveal that usage of dating programs assisted them to see the physical means and how their bodies react. One lady narrated dating applications “provided me with personal satisfaction, We learned to enjoy me, turned into accessible to see what I liked, made me to understand more about my personal agency.”

not, really was basically of evaluate you to definitely slut-shaming common in on line networks constrained her or him regarding freely stating on their own. Sites connections permit you to show aspects of oneself that cannot be easily uncovered when you look at the off-line one on one relationships. People interviewees, although not remained aware and made selection up to and this conditions to use when you are starting the pages because composing freely throughout the your sexuality always ran the possibility of being mistreated and you may named a whore. For example, one woman indicated that she cannot talk about the girl profile you to she was a good bisexual having worry you to men tends to make creepy intimate propositions. Female thought that Indian guys weren’t but really prepared to take on ladies’ sex. “Inside Asia there are not any progressive males who’ll deal with intimately expressive female, men have not altered and they judge people, build ladies become embarrassing by using crass terminology.” Women must deal with abrupt sexual offres as there is a good general opinion one of boys that ladies that are on the dating applications is actually simple, promiscuous and you will deserve sudden unwanted intimate comments.

இந்நூல் சுயமுன்னேற்ற நூல்களின் வரிசையில் பயனுள்ள, போற்றத்தக்க ஒரு புதுவரவு. பற்றாக்குறையோடு கூடிய அன்றாட வாழ்க்கையான இக்கரை வாழ்க்கையிலிருந்து சிறந்த, அபரிமிதமான அக்கரை வாழ்க்கைக்கு பயணிக்க ஒரு சிறந்த வழிக்காட்டி.

 வாழ்க்கையில் முன்னேற விழையும் எல்லோருடைய வெற்றிக்கும் இந்நூல் ஒரு திறவுகோலாக விளங்கும் என்பது திண்ணம்.
பல்வேறு பணிகளுக்கிடையே மக்களுக்கு, குறிப்பாக இளைஞர்களுக்கு மிகவும் அவசியமான இந்நூலை அழகான, எளிய தமிழ்நடையில் இயற்றி அளித்த ஆசிரியருக்கு பாராட்டுக்கள். அவர் பணி மேலும் சிறக்கட்டும்!

 

Dr.R.S.Raghavan
Dr.R.S.Raghavan

ஒரு நல்ல புத்தகத்தின் அடையாளம் படிக்கத் தொடங்கியவுடன் கீழே வைக்காமல் கடைசிப் பக்கம் வரை படிக்க வைப்பதே. தங்களது “இக்கரையா? அக்கரையா?” என்ற புத்தகம் எனக்கு அந்த அனுபவத்தைத் தந்தது. இது மிகவும் அருமையான சுயமுன்னேற்ற வகை புத்தகம்.

தொழில் முறையில் ஆடிட்டராக உள்ள நீங்கள் அருமையாக ஆங்கிலத்தில் எழுத முடியுமென்றாலும், தமிழ் வாசகர்களுக்குப் புதிய சிந்தனைகளைத் தரவேண்டும் என்பதற்காகவே இந்த நூலைத் தமிழில் எழுதியிருக்கிறீர்கள். அதனால் தமிழ் வாசகர்களின் நன்றிக்குரியவராகிறீர்கள்.

ஒரு வாசகன் என்ற முறையில், உங்களுக்கு என் பாராட்டையும், நன்றியையும் தெரிவித்துக்கொள்கிறேன்.

Padmashri. Dr. Nalli Kuppuswami Chetti
Padmashri. Dr. Nalli Kuppuswami Chetti(Partner M/S. Nalli Chinnasami Chetty)

திரு.ஈ.பி.திருமலை தொழில் துறையில் தனக்கென ஓர் இடத்தைப்பெற்றவர். அவரது முயற்சியும் மனித பண்பாடும் அவரை வெற்றியின் உச்சத்தை அடைய உதவியது. முற்போக்கான சிந்தனை, முரண்பாடற்ற நோக்கம், எதிலும் யதார்த்தத்தையும் உண்மையையும் உணரக்கூடிய அறிவு இவைகள் இவரது அடிப்படை ஆற்றல்கள். 

அவரது 40 ஆண்டுகளுக்கும் மேற்பட்ட அனுபவங்களின் தெள்ளிய சாராம்சம்தான் இவரது படைப்பு ‘இக்கரையா? அக்கரையா?’

சுவைபட எழுதியிருக்கிறார். அறிவுப்பூர்வமான புத்தகங்களின் நடுவில் இப்புத்தகம் தனித்து மிளிரும் என்பதில் எந்தவித ஐயமும் இல்லை. திரு.ஈ.பி.திருமலை அவர்களது இம்முயற்சி பாராட்டத்தக்கது. அவர்களுக்கு மனப்பூர்வமான வாழ்த்துக்கள்!

Shri. V.V.Sundaram
Shri. V.V.Sundaram(Cleveland Thyagaraja Festival)