Compatibilty should be an enthusiastic overblown factor inside matchmaking development

Compatibilty should be an enthusiastic overblown factor inside matchmaking development

Allen was a keen alternatively normal, stable, regular accountant. The guy performed anything else when you look at the an effective nonthreatening mediocre trends. The guy fulfilled Jen who was its a beneficial “wild youngster.” She try an event girl that has danced from inside the nightclubs, dressed provocatively, and had been sexually promiscuous. They struck it well, much on their family unit members amaze and you will recreation. Years afterwards, they are nonetheless joyfully to one another,

Disappointed elizabeth balance as well as people matchmaking internet, and that offer lovers together according to compatibility. Have not everyone read you to in reality, very often, opposites interest? Most are definitely bored getting that have someone one decorative mirrors the interests. Usually, many prefer people who fit the choices and you may hobbies. Possibly, we ple, this new stoic Gdje pronalazite vruće samohrane žene koje traže ljubav accountant marries the brand new vivacious, extroverted party girl whom in turn wants the stability and you can peaceful the guy will bring.

Once you’ve be shopping for somebody, you can even ponder, “Is this the person for me personally and how suitable is we?” Those who take care of opposites focus ask yourself whether or not it actually issues. Lack of compatibility is the chief issue of numerous which search relationship therapy. Whoever has marital dysfunctions often find on their own since not being in a position to express good times. When anyone complain on the compatibility difficulties, they often times is actually demonstrating they are not receiving enough high quality love. Its love-wells are not occupied, and need an excellent gusher so you’re able to replenish on their own.

When is the best time and energy to determine regardless if you are very appropriate? That is an emotional matter since most have no idea things to ask. Anyway you will find very many different ways in which people might be appropriate. We have found a partial list of very important variables: conflict solution, sleep, spending cash, r3ecreational, religious, dinner, and you will pastimes. I suggest these issues feel experienced as you believe an effective serious union of course it’s a time of peace anywhere between you. That isn’t procedure you want to mention while fighting with one another.

He had maybe not eliminated their delicacies, set aside their dirty outfits, or made love together with her to possess a week

What now ? when there is argument? Particular state lose which is the very first reason of a lot don’t want to stay a critical relationship Just like the, Dan told you. “Really don’t such creating everything i should not perform ? committed.” You ought to be head and be able to discuss these difficulties with your ex partner. Someone who passively acquiesces is what they thought to be loving, can after progress toward a beneficial persecuting, mad complainer

Paradoxically, for people to-be suitable, they need to assume and you can put up with are in conflict sometimes. Commonly every long haul relationships faulty? People tend to disagree, and want not to build more of this. Particular have the idea that inside matchmaking a few need certainly to end up being you to, however if a few feel that, whom or what is the you to definitely they getting? Disagreement try an indicator on it one to one thing must be badly completely wrong. Small irritations are able to getting blown out out-of proportion and never found in perspective. The manner in which you study from going back to see remedies for issues is oftentimes a whole lot more important than simply initially compatibility.

Although not, extremely seem to save money go out moaning throughout the discrepancies into the interaction, sexual, leisure time hobbies, and possibly the truth is, resting habits

Kate are alarmed one to Hank don’t love their own any further. When she requested, he said he previously maybe not overlooked her whenever she was moved the earlier night. Whenever she entitled him at the office, the guy acted perturbed and you can expected their particular just what she wanted. He had told her he was later getting a conference. She gently held the device, in which he hung-up. She aggressively experienced your and you can spotted their questions discounted and by herself branded insecure and childish by their husband. A cool conflict and this survived days ensued. None in the long run realized why these people were therefore enraged, although violence proceeded.

There are various components where you are going to be appropriate. You will get comparable backgrounds, socio-economic position, telecommunications designs, religion, education, ages, and you can health, food, resting, sexual, and you can recreational models. All these will be important for differing people during the certain moments.

இந்நூல் சுயமுன்னேற்ற நூல்களின் வரிசையில் பயனுள்ள, போற்றத்தக்க ஒரு புதுவரவு. பற்றாக்குறையோடு கூடிய அன்றாட வாழ்க்கையான இக்கரை வாழ்க்கையிலிருந்து சிறந்த, அபரிமிதமான அக்கரை வாழ்க்கைக்கு பயணிக்க ஒரு சிறந்த வழிக்காட்டி.

 வாழ்க்கையில் முன்னேற விழையும் எல்லோருடைய வெற்றிக்கும் இந்நூல் ஒரு திறவுகோலாக விளங்கும் என்பது திண்ணம்.
பல்வேறு பணிகளுக்கிடையே மக்களுக்கு, குறிப்பாக இளைஞர்களுக்கு மிகவும் அவசியமான இந்நூலை அழகான, எளிய தமிழ்நடையில் இயற்றி அளித்த ஆசிரியருக்கு பாராட்டுக்கள். அவர் பணி மேலும் சிறக்கட்டும்!

 

Dr.R.S.Raghavan
Dr.R.S.Raghavan

ஒரு நல்ல புத்தகத்தின் அடையாளம் படிக்கத் தொடங்கியவுடன் கீழே வைக்காமல் கடைசிப் பக்கம் வரை படிக்க வைப்பதே. தங்களது “இக்கரையா? அக்கரையா?” என்ற புத்தகம் எனக்கு அந்த அனுபவத்தைத் தந்தது. இது மிகவும் அருமையான சுயமுன்னேற்ற வகை புத்தகம்.

தொழில் முறையில் ஆடிட்டராக உள்ள நீங்கள் அருமையாக ஆங்கிலத்தில் எழுத முடியுமென்றாலும், தமிழ் வாசகர்களுக்குப் புதிய சிந்தனைகளைத் தரவேண்டும் என்பதற்காகவே இந்த நூலைத் தமிழில் எழுதியிருக்கிறீர்கள். அதனால் தமிழ் வாசகர்களின் நன்றிக்குரியவராகிறீர்கள்.

ஒரு வாசகன் என்ற முறையில், உங்களுக்கு என் பாராட்டையும், நன்றியையும் தெரிவித்துக்கொள்கிறேன்.

Padmashri. Dr. Nalli Kuppuswami Chetti
Padmashri. Dr. Nalli Kuppuswami Chetti(Partner M/S. Nalli Chinnasami Chetty)

திரு.ஈ.பி.திருமலை தொழில் துறையில் தனக்கென ஓர் இடத்தைப்பெற்றவர். அவரது முயற்சியும் மனித பண்பாடும் அவரை வெற்றியின் உச்சத்தை அடைய உதவியது. முற்போக்கான சிந்தனை, முரண்பாடற்ற நோக்கம், எதிலும் யதார்த்தத்தையும் உண்மையையும் உணரக்கூடிய அறிவு இவைகள் இவரது அடிப்படை ஆற்றல்கள். 

அவரது 40 ஆண்டுகளுக்கும் மேற்பட்ட அனுபவங்களின் தெள்ளிய சாராம்சம்தான் இவரது படைப்பு ‘இக்கரையா? அக்கரையா?’

சுவைபட எழுதியிருக்கிறார். அறிவுப்பூர்வமான புத்தகங்களின் நடுவில் இப்புத்தகம் தனித்து மிளிரும் என்பதில் எந்தவித ஐயமும் இல்லை. திரு.ஈ.பி.திருமலை அவர்களது இம்முயற்சி பாராட்டத்தக்கது. அவர்களுக்கு மனப்பூர்வமான வாழ்த்துக்கள்!

Shri. V.V.Sundaram
Shri. V.V.Sundaram(Cleveland Thyagaraja Festival)