It will be the closest version of intimate relationship a couple grownups is enjoys

It will be the closest version of intimate relationship a couple grownups is enjoys

You need a person exactly who talks to his kids a lot, very appears to love her or him, and has now an excellent connection with her or him

5. He may be frightened otherwise unwilling to wed again. The data try broke up right here. Specific state divorced the male is probably remarry, and mathematically talking, a great deal more divorcees whom remarry is actually guys, compared to the females. Yet not, he might features a concern with matrimony, or be dragging his foot regarding the wedding. In some instances he may not require to help you. In the event the according to him the guy does not want to get married once again, do not think you will transform their notice, it doesn’t matter what wonderful you are. Additionally he may instance having a wedding and want becoming partnered once more. It depends on the guy, however divorcees are indeed frightened, or if perhaps they want to marry once again he or she is “scarred” and you can fearful one to another wedding gets problems. In addition you can find happier married couples in which you to definitely otherwise one another has been divorced in advance of. That is several other area to be cautious. Maintain your sight open. He’s going to definitely have some ideas regarding wedding.

6. In the event that he has babies he or she is first. In the event that he has children, there is certainly a much bigger thread towards the basic spouse one will never getting missing. When the he’s not intimate along with his babies, it’s an enormous warning sign even in the event. Their babies should be essential your. However, because you are maybe not the mother of youngsters, it will make you feel quick otherwise as if you was smaller extremely important. Even if you score intimate with them, you’re not the mom and will probably always feel an outsider. Whenever i met the youngsters I had frightened.

When the he treasured this lady a great deal and she damage him your may care and attention he’s going to never ever as if you normally or you to the guy would like the girl and never your

7. Separation is expensive. Especially if he has got to pay son support. But also separation and divorce alone can really sink a man economically. It could take many years to recuperate totally from a divorce proceedings, financially speaking. And therefore could possibly get suggest he or she is stressed in the currency, otherwise has actually quicker to expend. He might end up being way of life much more frugally, otherwise could even getting he is not prepared to marry yet as he is having difficulties financially or keeps continuously loans.

8. His relationship ended and this is not nothing. You should never fool oneself a married relationship is a huge offer. It definitely enjoys influenced him with techniques, in both good of those and you may crappy of them. The key is always to see if a was outweighed by the brand new crappy. There’s two edges to each story and usually a married relationship trips up while they One another could not make it work. It certainly is not one hundred% that individuals fault. A man who simply blames his ex for hours try probably not psychologically mature. It’s much various other whenever a person can say why brand new marriage didn’t exercise and you may know their part where. When the he is able to state just what the guy performed incorrect with no blame otherwise hostility, that claims a lot on their reputation and you will ability to develop and adult off experience. Since reason many divorcees falter inside the later on dating is the fact it have not learned off their prior, on which They want to transform in the themselves, between which to choose given that a partner and ways to make a love work. If they dont discover that it, they’re able to improve same mistakes more than once. You desire an older partner that will study from the past and then make a much better future without getting also jaded otherwise full of blame.

10. You create them getting real time again. Particularly if you is more youthful, he is pleased and you will happy to enjoys a different sort of woman in the its existence, feeling those people the newest thinking out-of attraction and you will interests again.

4. Someone are there first, in an exceedingly huge way. Brand new old boyfriend partner ‘s the elephant in the room. She was still his Girlfriend which is an issue. Because girlfriend you are going to usually become in a manner threatened by the their. Possibly they are researching the girl for your requirements. In the event the he finished bitterly along with her you usually need to be much better than the lady. Really, she is here very first, and probably he’s going to weighing almost every other girls up against her from inside the their head. But if he could be a good man, and you may emotionally healthy, in a position to have new things, he’ll realize that this is a special lady, that you aren’t his ex, in which he cannot lose your about their as you are a different lady and no regards to the girl, this is certainly a new section of his life in which is actually try carrying out new, earlier to the side.

இந்நூல் சுயமுன்னேற்ற நூல்களின் வரிசையில் பயனுள்ள, போற்றத்தக்க ஒரு புதுவரவு. பற்றாக்குறையோடு கூடிய அன்றாட வாழ்க்கையான இக்கரை வாழ்க்கையிலிருந்து சிறந்த, அபரிமிதமான அக்கரை வாழ்க்கைக்கு பயணிக்க ஒரு சிறந்த வழிக்காட்டி.

 வாழ்க்கையில் முன்னேற விழையும் எல்லோருடைய வெற்றிக்கும் இந்நூல் ஒரு திறவுகோலாக விளங்கும் என்பது திண்ணம்.
பல்வேறு பணிகளுக்கிடையே மக்களுக்கு, குறிப்பாக இளைஞர்களுக்கு மிகவும் அவசியமான இந்நூலை அழகான, எளிய தமிழ்நடையில் இயற்றி அளித்த ஆசிரியருக்கு பாராட்டுக்கள். அவர் பணி மேலும் சிறக்கட்டும்!

 

Dr.R.S.Raghavan
Dr.R.S.Raghavan

ஒரு நல்ல புத்தகத்தின் அடையாளம் படிக்கத் தொடங்கியவுடன் கீழே வைக்காமல் கடைசிப் பக்கம் வரை படிக்க வைப்பதே. தங்களது “இக்கரையா? அக்கரையா?” என்ற புத்தகம் எனக்கு அந்த அனுபவத்தைத் தந்தது. இது மிகவும் அருமையான சுயமுன்னேற்ற வகை புத்தகம்.

தொழில் முறையில் ஆடிட்டராக உள்ள நீங்கள் அருமையாக ஆங்கிலத்தில் எழுத முடியுமென்றாலும், தமிழ் வாசகர்களுக்குப் புதிய சிந்தனைகளைத் தரவேண்டும் என்பதற்காகவே இந்த நூலைத் தமிழில் எழுதியிருக்கிறீர்கள். அதனால் தமிழ் வாசகர்களின் நன்றிக்குரியவராகிறீர்கள்.

ஒரு வாசகன் என்ற முறையில், உங்களுக்கு என் பாராட்டையும், நன்றியையும் தெரிவித்துக்கொள்கிறேன்.

Padmashri. Dr. Nalli Kuppuswami Chetti
Padmashri. Dr. Nalli Kuppuswami Chetti(Partner M/S. Nalli Chinnasami Chetty)

திரு.ஈ.பி.திருமலை தொழில் துறையில் தனக்கென ஓர் இடத்தைப்பெற்றவர். அவரது முயற்சியும் மனித பண்பாடும் அவரை வெற்றியின் உச்சத்தை அடைய உதவியது. முற்போக்கான சிந்தனை, முரண்பாடற்ற நோக்கம், எதிலும் யதார்த்தத்தையும் உண்மையையும் உணரக்கூடிய அறிவு இவைகள் இவரது அடிப்படை ஆற்றல்கள். 

அவரது 40 ஆண்டுகளுக்கும் மேற்பட்ட அனுபவங்களின் தெள்ளிய சாராம்சம்தான் இவரது படைப்பு ‘இக்கரையா? அக்கரையா?’

சுவைபட எழுதியிருக்கிறார். அறிவுப்பூர்வமான புத்தகங்களின் நடுவில் இப்புத்தகம் தனித்து மிளிரும் என்பதில் எந்தவித ஐயமும் இல்லை. திரு.ஈ.பி.திருமலை அவர்களது இம்முயற்சி பாராட்டத்தக்கது. அவர்களுக்கு மனப்பூர்வமான வாழ்த்துக்கள்!

Shri. V.V.Sundaram
Shri. V.V.Sundaram(Cleveland Thyagaraja Festival)