We however are now living in Australian continent, in the morning cheerfully partnered and you will my personal half of-cousin and i also have a good relationship

We however are now living in Australian continent, in the morning cheerfully partnered and you will my personal half of-cousin and i also have a good relationship

We look for my mom on occasion and we act like none of the things that took place throughout that several years happened. However, she knows exactly what she did, After all what can We say?

My personal stepfather wound-up alone and you may residing a hovel. Some time ago he was crossing the road and you can got strike by a vehicle and you can destroyed one another their legs. I ended up reconnecting for a short time. There clearly was a time where We thought harmful to your and you can goes toward their family to cleanse which help having goods, however, he was their usual abusive notice, and my hubby was able to speak particular sense on me personally, thus i averted permitting your. The last thing I heard is he secured his passions money and you can goes on a big visit to America the 12 months in which the guy says to the newest visitors he suits that he’s a experienced and you can missing his legs within the handle.”

A decided Wedding

“Dad was a student in Jordan, and my personal mom was a student in Saudi Arabia. He concerned America first off doing work and make some cash. The guy produced sufficient to start to look having a wife so the guy simply questioned their father locate your someone who fits their conditions and he discovered my personal mommy. It absolutely was very old-fashioned. Anyone regarding her friends shared with her to do it so she you certainly will arrive at America and also a much better lifetime, very she did. There were no boyfriends otherwise some thing on account of our religion – just wedding and you can relationships, however, she just explained that in case she watched him, she instantly treasured him.

She is actually the common housewife handling the brand new students, in which he is actually the latest vendor, who had been just at works the complete go out, boosting his business. It was dreadful initially. Since our company is elderly, they are recovering and possess issues, however it is an excellent. They actually do like one another and you may set up a lot nevertheless now since they are Americanized he has ways additional feedback and you may need they did not have students early hence my mother will have did to start with. They usually let me know not to ever opt for a housewife and you will tell my personal sisters to not check for getting a person even though they Russian Cupid mobil can provide for you. Overall, it is good among them due to America, as well as inform you prefer to both and you will delight in both.”

The best thing

“My father partnered a lady regarding the Philippines he previously never came across up until the date she found its way to the country. They needed to glance at the farce of making a beneficial ‘history’ on their own getting immigration. Although not, eventually, it turned out great. It decrease in love, my dad is instance an effective tot giddy in his first genuine love affair (she is actually his 3rd partner, my mom are his first).

Following regrettably dad got disease 12 ages when they partnered. His partner nursed your as a consequence of it, and in case he passed away, she along with her family unit members embraced his students (the 7 people) into their family. She was a good thing you to definitely ever taken place back at my father.”

My father’s loved ones wasn’t as well delighted about their relationship even if. My personal father’s sis would not sit-in the marriage and treated my personal mother improperly. But they are not good people in standard.

These were rather not the same as both consequently they are in conflict in the numerous ways. I noticed all of them upset each other much. However, I did delight in increasing up into the good bi-cultural household. Although not, I don’t imagine my experience is actually much distinct from other bi-social group. My dad is really embracing out-of my personal mother’s culture, and over go out, turned into far more painful and sensitive and expertise into the their unique. Enjoying the new struggles in the last section of their relationships formed my opinions towards matrimony.”

I wound-up around australia, met my step-grand-parents who had been even bigger sadists than simply my stepfather and you will my personal half-sis was given birth to. Another years try an excellent whirlwind from discipline, and i are turned basically a domestic slave to own my stepfather who was simply a material abuser and you may a casino player one has worked 2 days per week on average. My buddy don’t hop out simple sometimes, although he had been brand new physiological child. In reality, the guy got twice as much beatings, in which he is actually somewhat more youthful as well while the we have an excellent eight-12 months many years pit. Once i was 16, my personal mom Fundamentally decided to leave your. A year later she discovered a new guy whom this lady has become with to possess a decade today; he is a perfect people while the direct opposite regarding my stepfather. A year ago as i decided to go to Russia, my dad said regarding my personal physical dad. I found myself 2 when my mommy kicked your away, and so i you should never have any idea just what their face ends up or something about your. I then found out which he fought difficult to keeps me in their lifestyle but my personal mommy sought out out-of their particular cure for prevent it. He became disheartened and invested long in the an effective mental healthcare. Just before We concerned Australian continent, my personal mommy and stepfather went along to their domestic and you may intimidated him to your signing my discharge documentation. While i was increasing upwards, my personal mom informed me that my dad kept their unique because he didn’t at all like me and i is actually an adverse youngster. In addition discovered you to my dad carry out satisfy my personal parent at the a central stop from inside the Moscow every six months and you can my dad carry out pass on my personal current images to help you your and you may give your position. One-day the guy failed to started to the new fulfilling they had organized, and you may my parent failed to know what taken place and you will decided not to get a hold of one thing aside or reach your. I enjoy believe the guy had an alternative relatives and managed to move on, plus possible that he took his own life since the he was still enduring depression.

இந்நூல் சுயமுன்னேற்ற நூல்களின் வரிசையில் பயனுள்ள, போற்றத்தக்க ஒரு புதுவரவு. பற்றாக்குறையோடு கூடிய அன்றாட வாழ்க்கையான இக்கரை வாழ்க்கையிலிருந்து சிறந்த, அபரிமிதமான அக்கரை வாழ்க்கைக்கு பயணிக்க ஒரு சிறந்த வழிக்காட்டி.

 வாழ்க்கையில் முன்னேற விழையும் எல்லோருடைய வெற்றிக்கும் இந்நூல் ஒரு திறவுகோலாக விளங்கும் என்பது திண்ணம்.
பல்வேறு பணிகளுக்கிடையே மக்களுக்கு, குறிப்பாக இளைஞர்களுக்கு மிகவும் அவசியமான இந்நூலை அழகான, எளிய தமிழ்நடையில் இயற்றி அளித்த ஆசிரியருக்கு பாராட்டுக்கள். அவர் பணி மேலும் சிறக்கட்டும்!

 

Dr.R.S.Raghavan
Dr.R.S.Raghavan

ஒரு நல்ல புத்தகத்தின் அடையாளம் படிக்கத் தொடங்கியவுடன் கீழே வைக்காமல் கடைசிப் பக்கம் வரை படிக்க வைப்பதே. தங்களது “இக்கரையா? அக்கரையா?” என்ற புத்தகம் எனக்கு அந்த அனுபவத்தைத் தந்தது. இது மிகவும் அருமையான சுயமுன்னேற்ற வகை புத்தகம்.

தொழில் முறையில் ஆடிட்டராக உள்ள நீங்கள் அருமையாக ஆங்கிலத்தில் எழுத முடியுமென்றாலும், தமிழ் வாசகர்களுக்குப் புதிய சிந்தனைகளைத் தரவேண்டும் என்பதற்காகவே இந்த நூலைத் தமிழில் எழுதியிருக்கிறீர்கள். அதனால் தமிழ் வாசகர்களின் நன்றிக்குரியவராகிறீர்கள்.

ஒரு வாசகன் என்ற முறையில், உங்களுக்கு என் பாராட்டையும், நன்றியையும் தெரிவித்துக்கொள்கிறேன்.

Padmashri. Dr. Nalli Kuppuswami Chetti
Padmashri. Dr. Nalli Kuppuswami Chetti(Partner M/S. Nalli Chinnasami Chetty)

திரு.ஈ.பி.திருமலை தொழில் துறையில் தனக்கென ஓர் இடத்தைப்பெற்றவர். அவரது முயற்சியும் மனித பண்பாடும் அவரை வெற்றியின் உச்சத்தை அடைய உதவியது. முற்போக்கான சிந்தனை, முரண்பாடற்ற நோக்கம், எதிலும் யதார்த்தத்தையும் உண்மையையும் உணரக்கூடிய அறிவு இவைகள் இவரது அடிப்படை ஆற்றல்கள். 

அவரது 40 ஆண்டுகளுக்கும் மேற்பட்ட அனுபவங்களின் தெள்ளிய சாராம்சம்தான் இவரது படைப்பு ‘இக்கரையா? அக்கரையா?’

சுவைபட எழுதியிருக்கிறார். அறிவுப்பூர்வமான புத்தகங்களின் நடுவில் இப்புத்தகம் தனித்து மிளிரும் என்பதில் எந்தவித ஐயமும் இல்லை. திரு.ஈ.பி.திருமலை அவர்களது இம்முயற்சி பாராட்டத்தக்கது. அவர்களுக்கு மனப்பூர்வமான வாழ்த்துக்கள்!

Shri. V.V.Sundaram
Shri. V.V.Sundaram(Cleveland Thyagaraja Festival)